Getting upset with the husband’s behavior and shouting on him for one reason or the other, is a part and parcel of marriage. As long as this doesn’t become a regular affair, you are just another couple having a few issues. However, if her bouts of anger become chronic, it suggests a severe problem in your relationship that needs to be sorted. Here are a few tips to deal with an angry wife.
Find Her Melting Point
Every lady has a few melting points. Here melting point refers to the typical things that drive her crazy and her temperature mounts. Make a list of these points. Memorize them like your daily prayers and make sure that you don’t revoke her by committing those mistakes. And if in case, you commit the blunder of doing something that will invite her wrath, immediately inform her about it with a sullen, sorry look.
Lister To Her With Full Patience
During her outburst, she is unlikely to hear your side of the story. Just remain focused on her. It should appear to her that you are paying attention to what she is saying. Not doing so can make here angrier, accusing you of ignoring her.
Avoid Justifying Your Actions
Don’t argue or try to present counter-claims. Just get hold of a seating position and face her verbal assault like a soldier. Don’t ask her to calm down or take a chill pill. These are precisely the kind of things that add more fuel to the argument. In fact, it is better to stay mute as long as she is animatedly shouting at you.
Try to Agree With Her
You don’t want to look foolish, i.e. presenting a fake sense of approval. Just use your body language to convey that you agree with her reason for getting angry. For instance, nod your head and occasionally, let out a slow sigh that indicates you have surrendered to her reasoning. Not doing so will make her shout more. The sooner you give-in to her anger, higher are the chances of her getting calm.
Don’t Run Away From the Scene
This is probably the worst thing you could do. You need to understand that though you are suffering in this scenario, in a way it is working towards calming her.
Understand The Cause Of Anger
Many times, anger bouts are precipitated due to deep-seated issues. For instance, your wife might be getting angry since she sees a pattern in you which resemble her father’s mannerisms whom she resents. Such issues need to be tackled with extreme care. Firstly, you need to decode the underlying cause. If it is just another fault committed by you, you can seek an apology and diffuse the situation. However, if it turns out to be an emotional issue weighing on your wife’s mind, you need to be her guiding soul. Try to talk to her or tell her that you will accompany her to a counselor.